2016 is fully upon us. For some this may be exciting and for others it may be the opposite. Each new year brings us feelings of confrontation and realization. This is the time when people allow themselves to see that they have some habits they need to change. These habits are typically ignored throughout the year until the season calls for resolutions. Each new year is set with good intentions by most of us. We tell ourselves we want to change for the better and we commit to an act that will help us do just that.
What most people fail to realize is that their habits are regular practices that are difficult to give up. These tendencies have been formed over long periods of time. We are creatures of habit that love consistency. Stopping a habit overnight is unrealistic and by trying to do so, you set yourself up for failure.
Typically new years resolutions are externally focused. People want to lose weight, make more money, finish school, etc. While these are all great goals, the most beneficial and important goals come from within. It is not about simply what you want to do but WHY you want to do it.
Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to make more money? Why do you want to finish school?
By looking at why you want to do something you will find more understanding and security about yourself. Lets say you want to lose weight because you want to be healthier. You want to be healthier because you want to be here for your family. You want to be here for them because you love them. Finding the root of a desire will allow you to see what is truly driving you. Knowing the motivating factor will clear the confusion and the burden of the task as a whole.
Understanding that there is always a “why” behind desires will allow for more focused resolutions. Instead of broad, general statements, make your goals realistic and specific. “I want to make more money” could turn into “I am going to read at least 20 minutes everyday, because I know that successful people read.”
Focus in on tasks that are accomplishable and particular. That way you can meet your goals and continue to develop from there. Do not overwhelm yourself with broad resolutions that you do not know how to tackle. Think about what drives you each day and what you would like to do to emphasize that.